WHY OUR GENERATION CHOOSE CAREER OVER MARRIAGE.

According to society, taking decisions when it comes to love are super simple. You want to be loved? Then get married. True, they are simple but if we were in 19th century. With the progressive growth in our economy and society, people are growing as well. Yes, we want to be loved, and no, we don't think marriage is important for that.

We are growing every single day, making careers, trying to be something in our life. Sure, we will marry some day, but may be today is not that day, or tomorrow, or an year or maybe a decade.

Making our identity is important for our own self respect, and let's not bring feminism here because we all know, it's important not just for women but for men as well. We all want to be treated equally with respect and dignity and we don't want it as a gift, we want to earn it and we know we can. 

As a matter of fact, we not only want to earn the respect from others but we want to respect ourselves too. We want that moment in our life when every time we will look into the mirror, we'll know that whatever we are today is for ourselves and not for the successful guy or the girl, we've married or was supposed to marry. We want to be something in our own eyes. And for that, we aren't ready to get married before we reach that level.

But just because we don't want to marry, it doesn't mean we are anti-lovers. Most of the time people think that if you are ambitious or you want to be something in life, that means you are selfish, or else completely happy with you are totally self sufficient and nobody really exists in your universe.

Absolutely incorrect. Yes we are happy being what we are, but no, that doesn't mean we don't want to be loved. Every person in this world needs affection, care and love. We all want to be treated as a little gushy ball at a certain time. Just because we are ambitious and choose to be our own self before marriage, doesn't mean we don't want to share ourselves with somebody else.

In our society, LOVE is equal to MARRIAGE, and the thing is our generation believes otherwise. We think love is important, marriage isn't important right now because career is what we need to focus on. Basically, we are screwed between choices. But making a decision isn't so hard. You just need to find someone who can understand the situation and well, focusing on his/her own career too. 

How exactly is choosing career before getting married, is the right thing to do?

Let's come to the stats first, according to UCLA study conducted between 2001 and 2004, the couples where both the partners equally contributed in the household and earning, were more happy than people where only one person works.

Now, to the basics, it's too obvious that when you are working you have a higher esteem and has more chances to be respected or to respect someone else. It's easier to understand your spouse when they'll tell you how hectic their office hours are being. Because you've been there too. 

Understanding each other's state of mind regarding work is easier, when you too had those bad days at office.

When you are both settled in your job, working well and are happy and satisfied with your work and career, there will be no ego clashes, which means smooth life, better understanding. You'll have less chances to be sad about 'why hasn't he texted back yet?', because you won't be free as well.

But yes with everything positive there is a hidden con, so 'being career focused' has a con too. 

And that con is popularly known as 'RELATIONSHIP GAP'.

You have to fill those gaps which 'lack of time' has brought into your relationship. You have to be more precautious and should work on time management, and try to talk as much as you can.

Take holidays, enjoy weekends together, there are a whole lot of things you can do to fill that gap,

it's not really that difficult if you both are willing to work on the relationship together.

So I guess, the conclusion is finally out of the mist. And it's clear that, choosing career is actually healthy for a married life. And so, choosing career over marriage isn't a bad choice.