QUESTION: I love this guy but this love is turning into a physical thing.
STORY: Firstly I love your blog. Not into reading much but I read you as soon as your blogpost gets posted. So this guy and I know each other from months now.. we met on facebook and we started with a fight just like the story.. but somewhat opposite as in he tries to prove himself and I keeps arguing no matter what.. I love him a lot and I know he does too... but Megha yr I dont know if he really loves me.. we just we hardly talk about life nd stuff its turning into a physical thing. Most times when I try to talk he start talking intimate and I just need to talk. What should I do?
ANSWER:
Dear Pari.
Thank you for loving the blog.
Coming to your question, if he ignores the conversation and gets straight into intimacy, I think you should first confirm whether he really loves you or it's just lust. I know this seems difficult and will take a huge effort to d, it will also give you a huge amount of pain but in the end it's worth it, it really is worth. Being in love with someone who just have lust for you is not ethical and healthy for you. Probably he won't even be aware of the fact that he is giving physical relationship, the name of love. There is a possibility that calling lust as love is not his mistake, as, usually when people have physical intimacy with one person and have no other person in their life, to them that is what a real relationship is. No, real relationship is a lot more than this.
Now, if he really loves you, or at least wants to be in love with you. How will you fix this mess? TALK TO HIM. Talk him through this because there's a big possibility that he doesn't even know what's happening wrong.
Find a peaceful place, go on a date, some favorite restaurant of yours or any place "that is public". Why public? because then there'll be fewer chance of intimacy which means you both have to talk. Talking is great, have a good conversation, talk about what you both like, try to give him more chances to talk but don't forget to tell him about yourself, especially the stuff he doesn't know about.
He'll be fascinated, and will soon be used to talking, in fact he'll love doing that. But yes, don't put intimacy totally aside, as their is a possibility he'll notice it. Don't put it totally aside but don't do it all the time. If it was 90% now, make it 50%.
I'm sure this will help out. And girl, don't take stress, it'll be fine soon.
P.S. For more questions you know how to reach me.
ASK ME FORM: https://goo.gl/forms/jMGcJ5DiLvaW8w7T2
Or you can contact me in any of our social media page.
Dear Pari.
Thank you for loving the blog.
Coming to your question, if he ignores the conversation and gets straight into intimacy, I think you should first confirm whether he really loves you or it's just lust. I know this seems difficult and will take a huge effort to d, it will also give you a huge amount of pain but in the end it's worth it, it really is worth. Being in love with someone who just have lust for you is not ethical and healthy for you. Probably he won't even be aware of the fact that he is giving physical relationship, the name of love. There is a possibility that calling lust as love is not his mistake, as, usually when people have physical intimacy with one person and have no other person in their life, to them that is what a real relationship is. No, real relationship is a lot more than this.
Now, if he really loves you, or at least wants to be in love with you. How will you fix this mess? TALK TO HIM. Talk him through this because there's a big possibility that he doesn't even know what's happening wrong.
Find a peaceful place, go on a date, some favorite restaurant of yours or any place "that is public". Why public? because then there'll be fewer chance of intimacy which means you both have to talk. Talking is great, have a good conversation, talk about what you both like, try to give him more chances to talk but don't forget to tell him about yourself, especially the stuff he doesn't know about.
He'll be fascinated, and will soon be used to talking, in fact he'll love doing that. But yes, don't put intimacy totally aside, as their is a possibility he'll notice it. Don't put it totally aside but don't do it all the time. If it was 90% now, make it 50%.
I'm sure this will help out. And girl, don't take stress, it'll be fine soon.
P.S. For more questions you know how to reach me.
ASK ME FORM: https://goo.gl/forms/jMGcJ5DiLvaW8w7T2
Or you can contact me in any of our social media page.
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