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Being a "DUFF" - Designated Ugly Fat Friend.

Are you a DUFF?

If people talk to you mostly for the purpose of ‘you’ hooking ‘them’ up with one of your pretty friend, or if you are considered to be the smartest one out of your friends but still is ‘nil’ on the DATES bar… then, welcome to the club- “DUFF”, it isn't that bad.



I was watching this movie “The Duff” today, just when I realized I was one too (Actually I still am one but it doesn’t really matter). Somehow we all are DUFFS in one way or another, we all have insecurities and we all are always less than someone or another. But that has nothing to do with how bad or good or talented we are, it’s just a tag, a label we give to someone who doesn’t wander in our minds after seeing them. Being a DUFF has nothing to do with your overall personality. You can be a duff even if you are awesome. FYI, DUFF isn't bad. BTW the movie is so awesome.


So what is this DUFF actually? Well according to the movie, full form of this abbreviation is “Designated Ugly Fat Friend”, but wait a DUFF doesn’t really needs to be ugly or fat, requoting what I said above “it is someone who doesn’t wander in our minds after seeing them”. I believe a DUFF is an average looking person in a group of some handsome/beautiful people. FYI, DUFF isn't a bad word, a DUFF can be someone super cute or super witty, its just a name given to those who aren't so attractive on the basis of looks when comparing to their friends but have an awesome personality, and can attract anyone with the way they are inside, they just aren't aware of it.
Du-uhh..!! Most of us are that aren’t we? I am one too. 
Question is, should we be sad about it? Well I don’t think so, even if we are a DUFF we all have something we are good at. We all may not be handsome or beautiful or pretty but we all are talented.
We all might not be aware (or some of us may know) about where are talent lies, yet, but sooner or later we’ll find it out.
Looking good all the time, having a sexy physique, dancing awesome, or having a beautiful voice aren’t the only talents a human being can possess. If you lack at all those, or let’s say God dint showed up at your house and gifted you with any such “said-to-be-popular talents” on your birthday, doesn’t mean you are talentless. I can say this to you in bold letters that YOU HAVE A TALENT, yes you do, trust me.
Remember one thing always, if you can make someone laugh genuinely, you have a talent. How? Well you made someone smile and that makes you good and being good is a talent. Not everyone possess it.
You have your own personality, enjoy it and embrace yourself. Yes, there might be someone you like, but they don’t feel the same way for you, or might have some sexy girlfriend or boyfriend, that you think you can’t compete to, but it’s okay, some day you’ll fall for someone good, or maybe someday your crush will see the one inside of you regardless of how you look outside, and if he still dont like you.. he/she is a douche and you dont deserve such douches.
But for all this to happen, you first need to love yourself.
1. BELIEVE.
2. DO.
3. ACHIEVE.
These are the three steps to find yourself. BELIEVE in yourself. DO stuff you think you can’t do. And ACHIEVE the confidence you are lacking.
This is a small tip with a big meaning. If you don’t find yourself people, will make you believe that you are something which you totally are not. Don’t let people label you, be something, be yourself. Don’t you dare giving people the authority to question you something stupid and demanding an answer for it.
Don’t be a badass if you aren’t, be sweet if that’s what you really are. Always remember one thing “Please yourself, not others.”
Go on be a DUFF because being an average is fantastic, kinda cool actually.
Trust me YOU ARE AWESOME don’t you ever forget that.

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