QUESTION: Did my ex ever loved me?
STORY: We were in a relationship for 6 years. It was
all good for about 60% of the time and then she stopped caring about me.
Wouldn't talk for weeks and if I would try to talk she would ignore. If I would
complain she would say it's career related. And when we used to meet she was
always in her phone talking to her friends, giggling and stuff. This got worse
so I had to leave her. But these questions still haunt me.
ANSWER:
Dear M.N.,
Sometimes reality is harsh but the fact is, we can’t deny
it. So I want to clarify this thing, No she didn’t loved you. She used to love
you before, but as the time grew her love faded away. This does usually happen
in long term relationships and it’s pretty normal. I’ve known many people
who’ve been in 7-8 years old relationships but broke up because of the same
problem.
As time grow things starts boring us because we are used to
them, we are used to the same routine that same “I love you baby” every single
day. And there’s nothing wrong with it. Take an example of Rice and Daal. Tell
me, how you will feel if you have to eat the same “Rice and Daal” every single
day? Bored, right? This is exactly what happened to both of yours relationship.
Now, you might be thinking that if that's the case how do
married people stay together for such a long period? Well.. the answer is
simple, they spice it up. Sometimes they change the daal chaval's recipe and
prepare it a bit differently and voila things take a different turn right
there. They know they have to stay together, they want to stay together and
that's why they work on their relationship.
But in your case I’m pretty sure because of all this
problem, you might've felt that same lack of interest that she felt towards
you. And she clearly wasn't putting any effort to make the relationship work,
basically she wanted this to end.
So, finally I would like to end this answer by saying, yes
she might have loved you in the beginning but as the time grew her love
vanished. So basically your decision of ‘breaking up with her’ was for the good
of both, you and her.
Life has not ended yet, go on talk to new people, find love
and trust me don’t regret anything. Because somehow every bad experience ends
up giving us something good.
I hope my answer helped you in clarifying the situation but
if you need more advice feel free to send in another question. You know how to
reach me. J
And if you feel that you still haven’t moved on, here
you go.
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